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Staying awake and 'being fun' at parties, without alcohol

Discussion in 'Alcohol' started by singingintherain, Sep 14, 2015.

  1. singingintherain

    singingintherain Community Champion

    I've got a party coming up in a few weeks that I've agreed to attend. These are usually centered around alcohol and most of the people are around the ages of 20 - 23 years old. I'm 28 and I've come to the realization that my drinking was becoming a problem. I've reduced my alcohol intake to no more than three standard drinks in one session, and no more than seven drinks total in a week.

    I'm not sure how much fun I'm going to be at this party though. I can easily avoid the pressure to drink. The people attending are not the kind to peer pressure anyone into drinking and I can be the designated driver so it's not a big deal. My problem is mostly how I am actually going to stay awake for very long! These parties tend to start about 9 or 10pm, and go until the early hours/dawn. Even if I drink coffee or an energy drink I don't think I will be that fun to be around. I'll be feeling like looking at my watch constantly.

    I don't have an issue being sober at most events, but an outright party like this seems a bit more challenging. I'm considering going along and perhaps slipping away once I people start getting rowdy and I get bored/tired. Hopefully I could leave without people noticing.
  2. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    You can try enjoying the foods more or you can have someone there you can enjoy talking with. Maybe there could be games as well or there is a videoke or sing along event that can keep you awake and enjoyed.
  3. Nergaahl

    Nergaahl Community Champion

    It's good that you realized you have a problems with controlling your alcohol intake. It's the first step to succeeding into a drinking-free life. Congratulations!

    And about the party issues, maybe slipping out would be a good idea? I used to do this as well, I'm not very fond of parties and when I had to go to one I used to leave earlier that the others. Either way, try to talk to the people around you, for when you enjoy someone's company, time flies. Good luck!
  4. Coolkidhere

    Coolkidhere Community Champion

    During parties here we have a wide variety of things to do. There's karaoke, playstation games, chatting, eating, games and movie watching. Try to do some other things in the party so that you will not be forced to drink just to stay awake. It helps if there are a lot of activities in that party though.

    In case there isn't, then slipping away is the best idea to do. Sometimes, when a party is not up our alley, we just go home early. We just eat and then leave lol. As long as you chat for sometime with people, I think it's okay to leave early.
  5. Rainman

    Rainman Community Champion

    The attitude @OP, it does make a huge difference. Never let yourself believe you can't do anything . . .

    Staying awake isn't that hard especially if there's loud music playing. As for being fun, you don't need to try that hard either. Between now and the time for the party brush up on your small talk. Thusly prepared, you can talk with anyone who is at the party and even enjoy yourself whilst you are at it.
  6. btalivny

    btalivny Active Contributor

    Alcohol is a depressant. The fact that you are not drinking it should mean it should be easier to stay awake. You could socialize with others in order to keep the tempo of the event up.
  7. henry

    henry Community Champion

    Dude, I'll be honest with you and tell you that if you think you have a drinking problem, you're just asking for trouble going to that party. It's like someone with a gambling problem partying in a casino expecting not to gamble. My advice to you is not to go to that party if there's going to be alcohol all around you. In my opinion, avoiding temptation is the key for staying sober. At the end of the day, we are what we are.
  8. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    Of course, you can absolutely say no to alcohol without having to reject the party invitation. I am pretty sure you would still have a lot of fun without getting drunk. I have been through a similar situation before. I went to a bar with my former high school classmates. It was sort of a high school reunion. And I did enjoy spending my time there even though I only drank pineapple juice. :)
  9. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    Going to a party and alcohol often go hand in hand, but that doesn't always have to be the case. Many people don't have to have a drink to enjoy themselves so if your able, be one of them for that particular night.

    If you think you can't go to the party because the temptation to drink will be too much for you, then simply don't put yourself in that situation and don't go, but also don't let the fear of temptation ruin your social life.
  10. JoshPosh

    JoshPosh Community Champion

    If you can control yourself and dip out without anyone knowing then good for you. You didn't have a real problem in the first place. If you were an actual drunk then you wouldn't be going to one of these events in the first place, because it would test your sobriety.
  11. L_B

    L_B Community Champion

    I hope you have a good time at the party. I know when you are sober and everybody else is drunk it can get a bit hard on the nerves. Drunk people are always so loud and hyper. They have no idea how obnoxious they are. If you can sneak away early that would be good too but there are plenty of ways to have a good time at parties without drinking. I rarely drink when I go out and I always have fun. I always find something to do or somebody to talk to that is also sober. Be sure to let us know how it goes!
  12. Damien Lee

    Damien Lee Community Champion

    There's no need to consume alcohol in order to enjoy a party. You can consume a non-alcoholic beverage and just enjoy the food that is available. Also spend some time chatting with folks that are not big drinkers. You'll often find one or two hanging around. Socializing is a great way to have a bit of fun at a party. Anyway, well done for your responsible stance towards your drinking issue.
  13. FuZyOn

    FuZyOn Community Champion

    You can definitely enjoy the part without alcohol, don't worry about being fun. After a couple of drinks everyone around will be tipsy and won't care too much of what everyone else is doing, so stop being self-concious and caring about other. Go out there and have fun, that's the point of the party, right?
  14. BrandonA

    BrandonA Active Contributor

    Peer pressure may try to drag you back into alcohol, but there's a secret about people: they will always, even sometimes unconsciously, respect those who refuse to be dragged in. They'll look up to such people, even if it's grudgingly. And someone who has the ability to be hilarious and the life of the party while completely sober? That's a higher goal and accomplishment any day. Maybe that will help.
  15. Aescopri

    Aescopri Active Contributor

    You don't need alcohol to have fun! You can be a very fun person to be around, even if you're not drunk. At most parties I attend, I don't drink. And yet I still have fun.
    Just think about the hangovers. And if fitting in and having fun at this one particular party will have an effect on your future. Will that effect be positive or negative?
    Think about that. That's all I can say, really! =D
  16. jeremy2

    jeremy2 Community Champion

    It's good that you know your limits and that you can control yourself. However if you feel that you are not going to be comfortable for whatever reasons then i suggest you skip that party. There's no need to worry yourself about how will perceive you as being either boring or lively while you can do more meaningful things by yourself.
  17. Rosyrain

    Rosyrain Community Champion

    It is perfectly ok not to go to the party if you think that alcohol will be a problem for you. Your friends should be understanding if they really care about your health and well being. You have to think of what is best for yourself and if you think you might drink too much, then find something to do that you can remain sober while doing it.
  18. SLTE

    SLTE Community Champion

    I've noticed this as well, actually. People can usually tell when you really don't want a drink, and they get this tone in their voice that sounds like mild respect, even if it's grudging at times. May be I've just not run into any really pushy people, however.

    It might help if you find someone you know well and can converse with easily, then latch onto them for the majority of the night. I find a good, solid conversation is an excellent way to pass huge amounts of time without giving even the slightest thought to other activities, ie alcohol consumption.
  19. missbishi

    missbishi Community Champion

    I'm not a massive fan of parties myself and will always look for an excuse to leave early. Are you able to leave on your own terms or are you responsible for driving everyone back home too?
  20. MyDigitalpoint

    MyDigitalpoint Community Champion

    I remember when I read and advice that makes the trick to enjoy a drink and keep it up without having to drink too much throughout a long night; eating enough (and in excess if possible) fatty foods.

    Fats slow down the effect of alcohol while keep the enthusiasm up. However I'm not advising you to make use of this trick to abuse alcohol because on the one hand the intake of fats will get you gain more weight added to weight alcohol will bring alone. On the other hand, alcohol is a depressant, so you will eventually go down the hill feeling sleepy at the best, but it could be worst.

    I would really suggest enjoy the party driving your attention away from alcohol, who says that you need it to stay away or stay funny and joyful all night long?

    While in the party, join a group of people enjoying jokes, or dancing, or doing something else other than drinking, and night will go like a breeze.

    Now, if you cannot make it longer without alcohol, yeah, it's better to "gracefully" slip away than ending up picking a hangover for fun, a hangover that could be the starting of an undesirable alcohol addiction.