After being with my husband for 10 years I have reached the point of this, the point of being so lost and desperate I reach out to you for advice. My husband has a substance problem that is affecting our family greatly. I am going to give birth to our 2nd son in 4 weeks and I find myself awake at night hoping I don't go into labor at night because I would have to drive myself to the hospital because my husband has been under the influence since he got home from work. I understand when a man gets home from a long days work he wants to kick his feet up and relax, but my husband drinks beer as soon as he gets home, sometimes even on his drive home, smokes weed, and drinks more. He claims it's to relax and unwind. His behavior is unacceptable when he is under the influence and I genuinely don't know what to do anymore. We have a 1.5 year old boy who keeps us crazy busy and with a newborn on the way I fear my husbands after work actions won't change or may even worsen. He verbally assaults me asking what the hell I do while he's at work, well, I raise your son, carry your unborn son, run our landscape business that I built from the ground up, cook,clean blah blah blah...... but apparently it's not enough. I have not reached out to anyone about my concerns, this here is my 1st attempt. I understand many people go through this and even worse. I just don't want to waste away and have his actions effect my 2 boys. The fact that his sole concern is getting beer no matter where we are is frightening. I need him to focus on his family and not his substance. What do I do?