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Taking It Slow

Discussion in 'Sobriety Tips and Inspiration' started by crc3thebest, Dec 4, 2015.

  1. crc3thebest

    crc3thebest Community Champion

    Giving ourselves the time of day can be essentially beneficial for our own well being. When we feel like we are incapable of completing the task at hand, we give up. In this moment, we should realize the only one stopping ourselves is us. For this reason, we should find better ways to keep positive in all circumstances. People with the best personalities continue to succeed time after time. The attitude we have at any given moment, usually determines the outcome of our futures. Therefore, building oneself is necessary in all areas of life. Has anyone felt incapable at any moment in their life's? If so, how did you react to the emotional state you were in?
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  2. Rainman

    Rainman Community Champion

    The one thing that will stop you from giving in even when it appears like you will fail is a god reason to keep fighting. That's why before you start to do anything to stop yourself from forgetting why you are for example fighting an addiction, you need to write down the reasons why you MUST beat the addiction. Sure there'll come the times when you might feel that you've been at it too long and you are yet to taste victory but taking a look at the reasons why you have to overcome the addiction might convince you to keep going . . .

    "No road is long enough as long as you "keep on going”
    ― jmemo
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  3. kassie1234

    kassie1234 Community Champion

    I liked what you said here: "The attitude we have at any given moment, usually determines the outcome of our futures". I do think our attitudes have a big part in how we react and behave towards things. I know that they can't fix everything and it would be naïve to expect that was the case. But I do think they certainly have an impact.
  4. kgord

    kgord Community Champion

    I agree with this, however, sometimes it is hard to stay positive when you get shot down time and time again. I guess it is incumbent on us to figure out why, and then re do it. Sometimes though it would help immeasurably just to get a break every now and again. Life can be a vicious circle sometimes.
  5. MyDigitalpoint

    MyDigitalpoint Community Champion

    One day at a time, and one thing at once; many times we fail in recovery because we want to get our of the hell addiction turned our lives, but certainly taking it slow is the sole way to go consistently improving as time goes by.
  6. Nergaahl

    Nergaahl Community Champion

    There was a time in which so many failures stacked up that I felt overwhelmed and drank even more. This was my coping mechanism, the only way to keep myself "sane". Later I have realized that I cannot live like this anymore, and quit using. Now I take long walks to clear my mind and have a breath of fresh air. It just brightens up my day. Especially if the weather is cold. I love night walking in the winter.
  7. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    Exactly. Just take one step at a time. Don't try to pressure yourself, and get too overwhelmed with everything around you. Just keep your focus, be patient, and have faith. You will get there eventually. Don't ever give up because nothing worth-having ever comes easy.
  8. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    Taking things slowly and one day at a time, even hour by hour is important in the early stages of recovery, just as it can be in life in general.

    Not thinking and just rushing in to anything can only cause issues further down the line and people will often regret things they do in haste.
  9. L_B

    L_B Community Champion

    When I am struggling I just take one day at a time. It is hard to be positive when bad things keep happening. All my life I have tried my best to be the best person that I can be but people walk on me, take advantage of my weakness. I always pick myself back up and move it. I guess there is a part of me that thinks just maybe someday I will find the happiness I have always been seeking.
  10. Shenwil

    Shenwil Senior Contributor

    I agree that it is important to try and keep positive at all times. There may be times when doubt seeps in but as soon as we realize it is there we just have to replace it with some positivity.
  11. xTinx

    xTinx Community Champion

    There's no one-size-fits-all method to coping with problems. However, my own method constitutes the following: 1) crying it all out so I don't have to bottle up grudges and ill feelings, 2) read or watch anything to inspire me and bring back my confidence, 3) start working out on things that I think I lack or may have left out and 4) look towards my available support channels and make the most out of them - family, friends, pets, what have you. I know that healing is a process and it cannot happen overnight. So I always take my time.
  12. serenity

    serenity Community Champion

    True, our mindset will dictate what we can achieve when it comes to recovery. A negative mindset will achieve nothing, so we really should maintain a positive mindset and people should not quit when they enocounter setbacks and relapses during their recovery.
  13. oraclemay

    oraclemay Community Champion

    Yes, we all have those moments when we don't know what to do and want to give up. However we always need to remember that every problem has a solution and that all circumstances change and pass. Sometimes it is best to stop and take a breather. Go for a walk or chat to a friend who will give you an objective view. Very often see solutions you did not. Breaking the problem up into sections and working out solutions for each may be the way to tackle your issue. Sometimes things just need to be rearranged in a different order.
  14. tabithafitz

    tabithafitz Member

    taking it slow during recovery is they key, a long with making sure you're getting the right help and support. A lot of people who are trying to recover are also trying to get and keep a good job, regain a relationship with friends and family, get their priorities straight and stay clean. That is a lot of stress to add on to yourself while struggling with the cravings. Focus on you and only you and once you have a good grip on that and are able to control your cravings then start thinking about your priorities and getting a good job. Trying to regain relationships can be one of the hardest tasks aside from over coming addiction because you are also craving your family and friends to give you another chance and sometimes it takes a while to prove to them you are really ready for a new life.
  15. GettingBetter

    GettingBetter Senior Contributor

    It is so hard to do this though! Sometimes I feel so out of control of my emotions I can't slow down! I'm not sure what to do in these cases. Intense exercise seems to help but when I'm in that feeling it's almost impossible to get myself to do this.
  16. oraclemay

    oraclemay Community Champion

    We have to learn to be a little gentler with ourselves. We tend to treat ourselves rather harshly, especially if we were treated that way as a child. By understanding that you can relax and take it slow and just live and enjoy the moment you are in now you can remove all the pressure that you sometimes put on yourself. Don't allow others to pressurize you either. Tell them immediately they do. You need to give yourself a break and you will get there. It does not all have to be done today! Only one day at a time!
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  17. Tsky45

    Tsky45 Community Champion

    Yes it's true you have to be responsible for your own well being. Learning to keep a positive mind state will lead to a better life that's inevitable regardless of circumstance. There have been times when I felt overwhelmed by life's circumstances, but when I decided to take control of my own life I realized circumstances can change. When you operate from the inside out you'll realize that whats in you is what will shape your world.
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  18. zaerine

    zaerine Community Champion

    Right that having a "me" time will help a person feel relaxed and can think of things better. When it comes to feeling incapable, there are things that we cannot just force to happen overnight. Better to slowly make it happen especially if it is really possible.
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  19. Juanpeace

    Juanpeace Active Contributor

    Time heals all wounds, the scars are there to remember the lesson, not the agony. The road to wellness is full of challenges but if you can have people around you in your journey it will be a lot easier for someone to get well and be of sound mind and body. Be Prayerful if you are religious or do positives things for other people, this can be a good therapy.
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  20. crc3thebest

    crc3thebest Community Champion

    You have provided amazing insight on the topic of interest. I truly believe we must be proactive in developing our tenacity as human beings. The very moment we stop fighting is when the fight is over!