One of the hardest things I ever had to do was abandon my son to protect his child. He and the mother were doing drugs around her when she was a toddler and when social services became involved they told me if I didn't take on custody of her and tell him to leave she would go into care. 5 years on things are good with us apart from the fact my son has now turned to alcohol. The mother is doing better and the other nanny helps me out. The hardest part is keeping everyone happy and making sure she has contact with them all. I am in my 60s and I wonder if there are any others like me who have taken on a child later in life. I would love to hear from you if you have.