It's always such a sad thing when you lose a love one. I can only imagine how much more devastating it is when we think, that the outcome would have been different had there been intervention. I hope that with time LostmySis, can reach a place of forgiveness with his mother and allow a healing to take place. Sometimes as parents we are "ignorant" as to how to deal with our children when problems arise. It's no excuse, but it is a fact. Sometimes we need just as much help parenting as our kids need dealing with life and it's pressures.