That is cheating. People nowadays are getting less social. They rely on emoji's for emotional conduct rather than doing it in real life. Such a pathetic condition we all are in.
If your spouse is looking for emotional attention elsewhere, it might mean that you aren't giving him/her enough emotional attention. Or that he/she is somehow unsatisfied with the relationship. Or your spouse just enjoys sexting. Either way, the best course of action would be to gently bring up the topic and be genuinely interested in why your spouse is behaving the way he/she is. Together you may find a solution and have a more fulfilling relationship. If you don't, then you will have to either accept the situation as it is or find a new spouse.
The problem I had was that things were going good with my spouse and i, so I don't quite understand why he began texting with some hideous woman. Was he that desperate for attention? It makes me want to vomit just thinking about it to be honest.
If I catch my spouse, we would probably talk it out as calmly as possible in very loud, boisterous, and grisly voices. We would try to come up with the best possible compromise by loudly and passionately deciding who's going to leave the house and who's going to stay.
I feel like these days this is a pretty serious thing that a lot of relationships have to deal with. I feel like back in the days before all this technology, it was a lot more difficult for people to cheat - of course it still happened, but these days people are just so much more accessible, all day every day as a result of smart phones. I wouldn't be able to put up with that sort of behavior from my husband. If I ever found out he'd been doing that with someone else, the trust would be completely out the window. To me, it's as bad as physical cheating - and possibly even worse as there's emotions that go along with it, rather than just a physical act.
If you are already in a relationship but you are intentionally flirting with another person through texting then that is considered already a form of cheating. If you are the one who is emotionally affected then you must confront your spouse as early as possible before a real affair might happen. It is better to clear things out as early as possible in your married life to know the real issues why your partner is still not contented you in the relationship. Sometimes the existence of this form of communication through texting only worsens situations.
Sexting is still cheating. Just like kissing another, a one night stand or falling for another are cheating. In situations like this, you have to ask your partner, what made him or her do that? Is it because you do not give them the attention they want? Or is it because they do not feel any love for you anymore? It is easy to resolve if it is just because of neglect or no quality time for one another. But if the problem is because he or she does not feel love for you anymore or even does not desire you anymore, I think that is when the relationship is in trouble. I cannot fully say the relationship is over. I am one who believes that you can learn to love someone again, so long as you become committed to the relationship again.
I agree 100% with @Coolkidhere there is an entire subcategory of affection that is designated for your significant other. Anything on that list that is shared with someone outside of your relationship is cheating.
It got even worse as he did not realize I was able to cross link her phone number to social media. He stopped texting her for a while and then started back up again. He bold face lied to me and said he was texting his boss. I am ready to just give up at this point.
It is cheating really. If your with someone, sexting someone else is showing sexual interest in someone else. If this is an addiction it should be dealt with before who ever is doing it gets dumped. Pornography is an addiction that can ruin relationships, but this is worst. This should be considered cheating. If this is an addiction someone developed, there's a underlying issue involved that has to be addressed.
Sexting counts as cheating, plain and simple. The fact that you're doing that to a stranger rather than to your partner makes it unacceptable. It is a valid reason for a breakup.
Sexting is not only done between married couples, it is also done a lot by single teens. Actually over here there is a public campaign talking about this topic, I guess a lot young girls have fallen prey of this and ended up being shamed publicly. As a parent one should have a talk on the topic with one's teens, because it seems teens are more prone to do something stupid like this... specially send pictures.
If my boyfriend sexts another girl I am leaving. That is just CHEATING. I confront him by saying bye bye, I am gone. My nakedness should be enough for you.
It is a really hard situation I am in right now. My OH actually destroyed his cell phone after I caught him. I am so torn right now that I do not know what to do. He is an empty shell inside and is very depressed. I believe that had something to do with it. It comes to a point where he needs to get help or I am going to have to leave.
It's far from an ideal situation if your partner is "sexting" someone else. You absolutely should confront them about this texting habit of theirs, but not in an angry manner. Let your partner know that this is putting the relationship at risk and that this is something that needs to stop. If he can't stop, perhaps your partner needs to seek out help. If he refuses to seek out help, then the ball is in your court on whether you wish to proceed with this relationship.
I would talk to them and try to solve the problem. I'm not a very affective or romantic person, but if someone agreed to be with me, then they would be okay with this. Of course, it would feel bad to know this, and I believe I would leave them, I consider it some kind of cheating. Can we call it... cyber-cheating?
@Rosyrain Maybe couple's therapy can help you both. It is even better if he has an individual session with the therapist and then a session together with you. If you really want to save the relationship, then this is essential. You both have to work hand in hand to get through this situation. I do think this can still be resolved as long as you both have the want to be in the relationship still.
We are actively working through things right now. He even destroyed his cell phone as a way to show that he was sorry. I am not sure what the future holds, but it is not worth just giving up right away without at least trying to work things out.
I had a friend who had a habit of constantly texting or messaging, it really annoyed me since we were roomates and he was really boring when he was on his phone, he wouldn't try to bring the girls he was texting and enjoy them, it's like he had an addiction to texting.