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The Importance of Support

Discussion in 'Share Your Rehab Experience' started by gracer, Feb 18, 2016.

  1. gracer

    gracer Community Champion

    This is not my own experience but a cousin of mine's. When he was brought to rehab due to cocaine addiction his parents were always there to support him especially when the rehab specialists would call on them for family counseling and open forum. They never missed any session which made my cousin realize how dedicated they were in wanting to help him sober up and live a new life.

    My cousin is now out of rehab, he has been living an addiction free life for 7 years now. He and his wife now have 3 beautiful children that he uses as his inspiration in pursuing a fully sober life. I'm really happy for him because I saw how he struggled during the early days of his recovery. Now there's no more sign that he was ever addicted and he is now living a happy and peaceful life with his family.
  2. deanokat

    deanokat Community Organizer Community Listener

    The support of family and friends when going through rehab is so important. My wife and I, along with our younger son, always participated in family therapy sessions and the open family forums when our son was in rehab. It makes a huge difference to the person with addiction when they know they are being supported.
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  3. gracer

    gracer Community Champion

    I agree! :) I think the presence and support of my cousin's parents were the biggest factors in helping him recover from his addiction. He must have seen how much his parents cared for him and he realized how much they really love him. Now he has so much love to give and share with them too and I can see how grateful he is that he is no longer in the dark world of addiction.
  4. MrsJones

    MrsJones Community Listener Community Listener

    I wish I could say the same but I can't. My husband and I went through therapy which ended very badly. He refused to see how I was supporting him when we first sought help for his substance abuse. Even the therapist saw that he wasn't being cooperative as far as being honest about how his addiction had affected our marriage and lifestyle.

    I eventually stepped away from his efforts to seek help because they weren't sincere. The time finally came when his life was at risk and this opened his eyes.

    I am glad that for you and your family that it didn't have to come to that point. I do believe that family support is a very important part in recovery for the addict it just has to be accepted by the addict.
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  5. darkrebelchild

    darkrebelchild Community Champion

    The family is always the major support group for an addict. There must be understanding and patience, though there will be feelings of disappointment, betrayal and bitterness; it is necessary to take addiction as the common enemy and fight it as a couple or a family in order to move on to a better and brighter future.
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  6. SashaS

    SashaS Community Champion

    I also agree that the presence of supportive family and friends is a positive thing. Without them, you have little of no motivation to do better and to help yourself. When my mother was in hospital, I brought a bouquet of flowers and a card for her and stayed by her side for the night, she thanked me for it and I knew I made her happy by doing so. Support helps and is an essential building block for helping addiction. The problem is too much support is bad, if you're always in their business and always telling them what to do and how to do it, you're just going to make things worse. Give them room to breathe, but be there for them when they need you.
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  7. kgord

    kgord Community Champion

    Yes, I think you need to take your cues from the person in recovery as to how much support they want, and need. It is great to be a supporter, but as you mentioned, too much support can be counterproductive, and may actually get in the way of someone's recovery.
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  8. gracer

    gracer Community Champion

    I'm so sorry to learn that your husband's therapy ended badly. You are a very strong woman to have supported him all the way and it's also a good thing that his eyes have been opened to the negativity and dangers of his addiction. It just had to be the hard way for him. It is really true that the support of family is important but the most important thing is the acknowledgement of the addicted person with regards to his/her problem. A person can never be helped if he/she refuses to accept it.
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  9. MrsJones

    MrsJones Community Listener Community Listener

    @gracer. Thank you for your kind words.

    The worst part for me was watching him spiral downward back then until he ended up in the hospital. It was really, really bad that I was scared that he was going to die that night.

    The one thing that I would have to share with anyone who is going through this is to try and prepare for the worst scenario and quit pretending that it won't happen because it might.
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  10. Kyler

    Kyler Active Contributor

    Out of true compassion, love and care comes support. If it is genuine support it affects the inner soul and it helps significantly. I can say from experience, without support, I would of not made it through anything or be who I am today. Influence or the environment affects a lot. For all those who are struggling, strive to get support.
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  11. gracer

    gracer Community Champion

    I agree with what you said MrsJones. :) Sometimes one mistake that we make as humans is to let ourselves believe that the worst things can't happen to us but the truth is that we're not invincible, no one is. I've also learned from the trials that happened to me. I used to make myself believe that the worst can't happen but they sometimes do and when they happen, they can hit really hard. We really have to prepare ourselves for the worst case scenarios of our lives so when they come, we won't get caught empty handed.
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  12. Vinaya

    Vinaya Community Champion

    Sometimes only support is not enough. The addict must respect the support you are giving to him. Giving support should also reciprocated by the expression of gratitude. I always support people who respect me, I don't give a damn to the people who are ungrateful.
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