My best tip for getting and staying sober is to actually work the 12 steps, in order, with a sponsor. They are laid out in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. Even after several years of sobriety, I still feel the need to work the 12 steps with my sponsor. At 26 years sober, I still need to have a sponsor. I need someone to be accountable to. When I stop working the steps, all my crazy comes back.