Ugh. The good news is that it is never too late to change. It was recently brought to my attention that I was being very self-centered in one aspect of my life. I chronically forget my husband's birthday. I was talking with my sponsor about it, and she gently pointed out that I might need to work steps 6 and 7 on this issue (made a list of our shortcomings, and become entirely willing to let god remove these defects of character.) Oh, how I hate admitting that I'm wrong, but in this case, I had to realize that this was a problem, and I needed to address this deep-rooted character defect. My ego is still stinging a little bit, but I'm so grateful to have a sponsor who is willing to point out when I am wrong. Knowing that I have the 12-steps to affect change gives me great hope. Today, I am grateful to still be willing to look at myself and strive to become the person god would have me be.