When I'm upset I just don't smoke. It just feels like there's no reason to live anymore and it's gonna be my last day, so what happens, is I overly indulge myself to my pleasure, which aside from smoking is binge eating. I just keep on eating despite that I already full and even that I don't enjoy anymore eating. And then after that binge eating and binge smoking, I would feel bad that I wanna kill myself. Any help?
Oh wow, this is very serious. I honestly urge you to get some professional help as soon as possible because this sounds like a huge psychological battle which needs attending to. Do you not do the same thing when you are not upset? Are there any other things that can distract you from binge eating and smoking, say any hobbies or friends? I'm glad that you had the courage to put this up, shows that you want help and are willing to be helped.
Oh god the eating problem. I can relate to you, friend. The last few weeks I have been unable to be satiated and almost daily ordered massive amounts of food and eating it by myself. Talking about a 40 cm (Family size) Pizza, double Cheeseburger and several portions of french fries. I feel horrible afterwards, but come next day I'm already ordering again. I gained around 20 kg last week. Stay strong, friend. I know it is hard, especially with depression.
Part of me wants to say, "one thing at a time". I would deal with the binge eating first, and not try to tackle both at the same time with an "all or nothing" attitude. I mean, smoking is bad for you, but the binge eating is going to have a more immediate impact, and if some smokes help take the edge off from eating, maybe that's the lesser of two evils for now. Can you swap out the food for some healthier alternatives that might fill you up without all the fat and calories? Celery is actually a "negative calorie" food, meaning your body uses more energy to digest it than what it provides to you. There are a lot of great "zero calorie" or "low calorie" dressings out now that taste surprisingly good. Maybe some carrots/celery along with some no calorie or low calorie dip to munch on. Another thing I will sometime turn to is a cup of chicken broth when I am craving something "savory" and salty. There are also all sorts of copycat recipes for PF Chang's lettuce wraps, which are healthy and you can indulge in them without feeling too guilty.
I feel for you, that sounds like a tough cycle you get into. Are you in a certain environment when that tends to happen, e.g at home? If so, maybe you could change a few things so it doesn't escalate as much. If at home perhaps you could try and remove any of the 'bad' foods you are likely to binge on. Or drink a large glass of water when you feel it coming on. Not sure if that would help you feel more full and end up eating less. Also, next time you recognize that you're getting upset maybe you could try to do something different. Go for a walk or call a friend. Try to break the habit of reaching for food. It'll be a hard habit to break so I hope you're not too hard on yourself, you're already one step on the way to improving as you've actually recognized the problem. I also urge you to get some professional help, if you haven't already. You shouldn't have to be suffering this much. Best wishes.
I think it's best to find the root cause of your behavior. Chances are you weren't trained well enough to handle your own emotions and you're just seeing the manifestation of it now as an adult. Try and seek psychiatric help to get your thoughts sorted out and to get to the root cause of your behavior so that you will be more equipped to see it for what it is and thus be more efficient in trying to solve it.
I also tend to eat a lot whenever I am stressed or depressed. What I do is to do some other activities to divert my attention into foods such as walking in the park or mall. I also visit some friends so that I could tell them what I am thinking and that helps me feel better. I also pray hoping that the feeling will end sooner and it will be a better day tomorrow.
There's something psychological about binge eating. Before I throw out pieces of advice that might only go down the drain, I think it would be better if you answer the following questions first: How far are you willing to go to cut back on your eating and other vices? Will you be able to muster enough motivation? Are you willing to overcome what's currently holding you back? You have to answer these questions first and, perhaps, on your own, you'd be able to find a way out of your predicament.
Do you think the binge eating is because of the nicotine withdrawals? Or are you saying that you use smoking to keep your binge eating in check? If it's the first one, I recommend talking to your doctor about nicotine patches. If it's the second one, then I recommend talking to a therapist about binge eating disorder. I know a couple people that suffer from it and they have found therapy to be immensely helpful. Good luck, and remember you can ALWAYS come here for advice and help with ANY kind of addiction
Two wrongs won't make it right. I would be curious to know as to what exactly makes you feel upset but no matter the root causes, i would suggest you take a moment and evaluate yourself. Could it be possible to avoid those situations or persons that make you feel upset? I honestly think life is too short to let people make you feel like killing yourself. Take control of your life and enjoy the life to the fullest.
I think you should try and work out why you are feeling so depressed. Once you get some help with this, you're ikely to find that the bingeing and smoking stops by itself.
Well, overeating is an addiction. So, there's that. It is just as hard for some people to kick food addiction as it is for some people to quit smoking crack. You see it everyday if you live in certain places where food is plenteous. Obesity is rampant. I would say that you are eating and smoking to feel "good", even though you don't feel good afterwards. But, you are not by yourself, people go through this type of thing all the time. I know I did. Hey, nobody is perfect in this world. I really don't know what to say to help you, but hopefully you continue to be strive to do better.
I agree that seeking professional help would be crucial in addressing your problems. It could be that you have some deeply rooted issues that require a professional to unearth by taking you through some one on one sessions.
We all turn to comfort food to make us feel better. However, using it as a tool every time you feel upset can be an addiction and a disorder of its own. One should think about seeking counseling for such a situation and see if they need more help. It is important to find healthy ways to deal with your emotions and food is not that.
Overeating is a very common scapegoat. Many people consider it an addiction, and I must agree with them. Eating too much can be very harmful for your health in the long run.
At least you know what is causing you to overeat. That is the first step from what I remember, but the harder part is going to be trying to figure out what you can do instead of eating all the time when you get upset. That could be more of a problem than what you think, but it is possible to find something else for you to do.
I know a lot of people tend to turn to food when they're depressed, especially sweets, so how about depriving yourself bit by bit of the things that you used to eat? Like if you eat 2 chocolate bars everyday, then how about trying to just cut it down to 1 then to 0? That reduction depends on how much food you eat per day. Then if you seem to still can't do it, then I guess it won't hurt to try to consult a professional about this.
I'm the same way. I smoke, and then I find myself wanting to munch. I go to the fridge open it stare it down close the door. Light up a smoke doesn't do the trick. I put it out go back to fridge open the door this time I'm going to pick something. I usually grab baby carrots, and ranch. Because I'm not really super hungry just upset, or bored.
The best I can give is to eat before you get high instead of getting high first and then waiting for the munchies to set in. That's what I do and I wait for my high to start wearing off before I eat again. After that, I'll re-up my high.
I felt so sad about what you feel. Don't let your problems, drowning you, there's a purpose of our life that God created us with an intelligent mind and have emotions. Too much eating is not a solution to your problem instead appreciating every little thing that you have especially the people that loves you and most of all Jehovah God loves you.