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True Friends Force You To Drink?

Discussion in 'Alcohol' started by Miaka_M, Jul 4, 2015.

  1. Miaka_M

    Miaka_M Active Contributor

    Now that I think about it, if someone says that they are your friend and then they go ahead and try to force you to drink alcohol, are they truly your friends? If they were the ones that made your taste buds go wild to the point of addiction, would you still consider them your friends? This may be a controversial topic to some, but I think that if these individuals truly were your friends, then they would respect your choice to drink or not. What do you think?
  2. CallipygianGamine

    CallipygianGamine Community Champion

    Personally I wouldn’t consider those people friends. I have cut ties with a lot of people like this, and the last guy I dated did this to me as well. I felt disrespected and dismissed, and simply for choosing not to partake in something that I know is bad for me. So yeah, I had to get him out of my life as well.
  3. kassie1234

    kassie1234 Community Champion

    Any friend that forces you to do anything is not a friend in my book. Particularly if they're forcing you to drink. If that's the case it sounds like perhaps they are caught up in their own insecurities and just want you to go along and be swept up in the crowd mentality too.

    A true friend will encourage you to do positive things. Never force you to. Look for friends that bring out the best in you, not drag you down to their level.

    People say you're the sum of the people you hang around with - I always try and remember that quote these days.
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  4. MyDigitalpoint

    MyDigitalpoint Community Champion

    People who push you to drink is not really your friend, but an acquaintance that many times is not worth to keep either.

    Real friends care for your wellness, acquitances want to challenge you in getting yourself involved on what they do, kind of the game young adolescents do to accept someone into their social groups. Then, if you don't do it, don't fit.

    If this is the game, thank God (or to whom you believe in) for not fitting in the group that leads to doom.
  5. JonnyMacdonald

    JonnyMacdonald Community Champion

    Good friends will want you to make positive life choice, great friends will help you with them.
    If someone is encouraging you to drink, and they know you have made a choice not to drink then they are not really interested in you, they just want someone to drink with.
    This weekend I was at a BBQ with some good and some great friends. Some were having beer and other drinks, but many of us were not drinking booze at all. The ones that do have a drink or two do not go overboard and never try to guilt trip the non drinkers.
    Keep around the people who help and lose the people that hinder.
  6. Aescopri

    Aescopri Active Contributor

    No, I don't think that so-called "true" friends will force you to have a shot. True friends will be happy whenever you're happy, and won't force you to do anything that's not going to be good for you in the future—in fact, they will often force you to do the complete opposite. They're hard to find.
    If a "true" friend forces you to drink, they aren't your true friend. Simple as that.
  7. Rainman

    Rainman Community Champion

    A true friend will never try to get you to do something which is harmful to you. When I was a teenager I knew numerous drug addicts and they always told me not try to be like them. Those are the kind of friends one should have. Anyone who wants to take you down with them, that is no friend. Or would one call them immature friends? It hardly matters. You'd be better off without them.
  8. missbishi

    missbishi Community Champion

    People like this really aren't friends at all. A true friend would want to do anything possible to keep you away from the alcohol, not try and force it down you.
  9. pwarbi

    pwarbi Community Champion

    I think a lot of friends might want you to have a drink, especially if they are, because they may not know you have a problem. If you actually said I'm a recovering alcoholic or told them the situation your in, they wouldn't pressure you into drinking. In fact, they'd do the exact opposite.
  10. SarahWorksAtHome

    SarahWorksAtHome Community Champion

    Some people are just completely ignorant to alcoholism or addiction and think that everyone can party hard and be okay. I have a few friends that seem to think that just because they are having a drink, every single person around them should be having a drink as well. And then also there are two friends of mine that seem to not like drinking at all but when they are in a situation where everyone else was drinking they will chug it down just to go along with the crowd.
  11. henry

    henry Community Champion

    I agree. A true friend would never make you do anything you don't want to. I've known a couple of guys who hit the bottom of the barrel with drugs. When I asked some of their friends who used to do drugs with them, why didn't they help them stop, they replied that they helped them consume the drugs, and they laughed. They only hung out with them because they would steal to buy drugs.
  12. L_B

    L_B Community Champion

    I don't think that some people realize the seriousness of alcoholism or really think that is can be a huge problem for some people. In other cases I just think the other person or people just don't care. I know our neighbor who is a friend of my partner's always offers him alcohol knowing full well what is going to happen. I don't consider this guy a friend but my partner thinks that he is the best guy ever. I think that is only because he gets free alcohol from him. Of course this man is an alcoholic too so he looks for somebody to drink with and then he tells his wife that my partner bought him the alcohol when it is usually the other way around.
  13. artkat96

    artkat96 Member

    I don't think someone is a friend if they force you to do anything (alcohol or anything else). If they were a good friend they would respect your own choices.
  14. PerkyNorm4u

    PerkyNorm4u Member

    I had a friend, a very close friend, who would always pressure me into drinking. The difference is they never knew I had a problem. I was good at keeping my addiction hidden so to speak until it became more evident something was wrong. Even when this person found out I had a problem with alcohol, it's as if it went in one ear and out the other. Basically, they were selfish and didn't give a damn about me as long as I was picking up the tab. So, in the end, no, this isn't a true friend in my opinion.
  15. JoanMcWench

    JoanMcWench Community Champion

    I never defined peer pressure as someone forcing you to do anything. I always defined peer pressure as something one can use to define themselves. Are you a leader or a follower? Can someone influence you to do soemthing you didn't want to do using their words alone? That's a powerful thing to afford anyone.
  16. AAngelo

    AAngelo Senior Contributor

    I agree with kassie1234 in some level. No true friend will ever force you to do anything. Then again, that doesn't mean they won't sell it. I have many friends who invite me over to concerts and stuff and they sell it like the artist was Elvis coming back from the dead. Invitations to drink is also the same. They would say it'll only last a few mugs. Then suddenly, someone is buying every bottle of beer in the bar. I have a lot of friends like that. Though like
  17. Matthodge1

    Matthodge1 Community Champion

    True friends will not make you do something you don't want to do.
  18. Marie92

    Marie92 Active Contributor

    No, true friends would not force you to drink. They would respect your decision, no matter what that decision may be. It may be difficult for the to understand because they want you to participate in the same activities as them, but that is no excuse. A true friend wouldn't force you into any activity that you are uncomfortable with or that you do not want to participate in.
  19. Alw

    Alw Member

    I don't believe that is a true friend. A true friend supports the decision that you want to make. If someone is trying to force you to do something you do not want to you. It's not ok.
  20. Adrianna

    Adrianna Community Champion

    Not a friend at all. The suggestive sell especially when they are pushy is telling of a person who is out to manipulate.
    Letting someone decide for themselves and being ok with that is a sign of a good person with good intentions. Forcing or pushing is not something a good friend would do or should do.