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What was your lowest point?

Discussion in 'Sobriety Tips and Inspiration' started by raidermari, May 15, 2015.

  1. raidermari

    raidermari Member

    There always comes a certain tipping point. There is always a final straw. You encounter something or go through something that makes you say "Okay this is the last time this is happening to me. Enough is enough". What was it that made you go "Things can't get any worse than this. I need to get better". I know that real life isn't as cliche as movies or books but a lot of my friends who have struggled with addiction and drug abuse, relate a certain story or moment when they decided that their life was the worst it had ever been and that something needed to change.

    For some it was a very abstract thought and they didn't actually decide to turn their life around then and there. They just realized that something needed to change and it couldn't go on like this forever. One of my friends, who will remain unnamed, put his girlfriend's life in serious danger on a bad drinking binge. He got into a fight with some nasty people at a bar. He actually owed them money and they decided to take it out on him and his girlfriend. He woke up the next day black out drunk in a park. As soon as he woke up, he feared for his girlfriend's safety because he remembered the fight and he remembered them harassing her. When he met up with her later, she told him they had harassed her for a very long time before a bartender and some other people stepped in and stopped it. She had no other option but to leave her drunk boyfriend in the bar and flee. She had been so scared she had forgotten her way home.

    That was when he decided he couldn't keep putting his girlfriend in danger because of his habit. He knew something had to change. I know a lot worse could have happened but I guess this was enough of a wake-up call for him.

    What was yours?
  2. FuZyOn

    FuZyOn Community Champion

    As I've replied to another thread, the tipping point for me was when I went from a wealthy person to someone who scrambled to pay rent at the end of the month.
    My relationships with other people were damaged too, which was scary.
  3. raidermari

    raidermari Member

    @FuZyOn it sounds scary to go from a good financial position to struggling to the pay the rent. Were you ever able to trace how you got from point A to point B? Did that help you in your recovery? You said that your relationships were damaged too. Were you able to recover some of those relationships and repair them? I'm only asking because I've had some friends leave their social groups when they were using. I wonder if they would be interested in trying to repair those relationships once they got sober.
  4. FuZyOn

    FuZyOn Community Champion

    Yes, after I realised what was happening to me I started to keep a spreadsheet of all my expenses. Toxic substances were wasting a lot of my money and that was really bad.
    I salvaged most of my relationships, luckily I stopped with my addictions just in time.
  5. CallipygianGamine

    CallipygianGamine Community Champion

    I wasn’t exactly addicted, but I did decide to stop binge-drinking when I ended up having sex with a guy who wasn’t even old enough to buy me a drink, and who apparently thought we were in a hardcore porno flick. I was too old to be living like that anymore, nor did I really want to live like that in the first place, so I told myself it needed to stop.
  6. adfnio

    adfnio Community Champion

    When I started waking up in a pool of my own vomit. That was my lowest point. Usually I would get up and vmoit but that is how bad my drinkng was getting. I was waking up in my own vomit unable to get up and move around. I could of choked on it if I was laying on my back face up.
  7. d4rk3n

    d4rk3n Active Contributor

    I used to be the best student in my class. Everyone in my family was so proud of me. And I let them down. I failed an examination for the first time in my life. That's when I thought, enough is enough.
  8. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    Woah. Not old enough to buy you a drink? I am glad he didn't try to blackmail you about going to the police and filing a complaint against you. And also, I am glad it became the reason for you to quit alcohol.
  9. CallipygianGamine

    CallipygianGamine Community Champion

    Oh gosh, I can’t even imagine how I would have felt if he’d done that to me. I was embarrassed enough about the whole incident to begin with, that would have just been mortifying. He wasn’t the type, though, which was one very small point in his favor. Not to mention he would have had to incriminate himself, haha. I’m honestly so happy I’ve decided not to cloud my judgment like that anymore.
  10. Lackluster

    Lackluster Active Contributor

    I once woke up in a pool of much worse, and I ain't talking blood. I got a lot better after that point, but it still wasn't very pretty. It's when you grow accustomed to the mystery liquids you should really be getting worried.
  11. dyanmarie25

    dyanmarie25 Community Champion

    Hahaha. Yeah. That would have been really embarrassing on your part. But yeah, we made mistakes and bad decisions in the past, but at least we have learned something from all of them.
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