I recently for the second time in a month and a half found meth on my husband. I was shocked because we are both recovering addicts and I thought everything was going good because he goes to a suboxone Clinic every day and I thought he was active in his recovery when I found the meth in his fifth pocket it was a second time in a little over a month and both times he said that they were for his brother but the bad thing that bothered me the most is prior to finding the meth the last time he was wanting to go to a friend's house any told me that I need to just trust him that he wouldn't use meth and that if it came up he would call me and I would come get him but he did not do that instead later that day I found meth on him should I take his word for it and assume it's for his brother because the way he acted angry and demanding it back seems that it was more likely his and **the most important question for me also how would you respond if you were me
Hi, @Ali. I doubt very much if the meth was for his brother. But, of course, I could be wrong. If it were me, I would sit down with him and have an honest, heart-to-heart conversation. I would set some boundaries for him and be prepared to follow through with the consequences if he doesn't stick to the boundaries. Since you're in recovery, you deserve to have a life free of drugs. If your husband is using, or even if the meth WAS for his brother, he is bringing drugs into your home, which is not a good thing. Not bringing any drugs into the home should definitely be a boundary. If your husband is using again, he needs to get help. But remember: He's the only one who can decide to take that step. No matter how much you want him to change, he has to be the one to pull the trigger. And remember: YOUR life matters, too! We're here to help and support you however we can.
Thank you and I knew the same I have to decide if I want to continue this fight with him or help him get help and find what he is missing or in need of ..I have asked him to move to a different clinic who are tougher and are very active and supportive in your recovery and stand by him like he did in my time of need and hope he finds himself back to me and his sons..
Keeping you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers, @Ali. Please take good care of yourself and your sons.