So please bare with me on this. My name id Daniel and i'm struggling with being sober and dealing with damage done from my days of addiction. I seem to be doing better and better every day. I'm almost 120 days clean and still cant get any ground made in the relationship between my father in law. He spouts off about "brain damage" and my "next to no chance of remaining clean" as if that is enough reason to stay at a distance and not help out financially while i get back on my feet. I went into an in patient program for 2 months and because of issues with my oldest daughter who's 11 and because of the difficulties with my wife trying to go back to school full time while finding child care for our 20 month old, I came home to help as a stay at home dad. I'm in an out patient program in the evenings and also attending Celebrate Recovery meeting 2 times a week. I'm surrounded by accountability and healthy relationships as well as getting on social security for an income to pay our rent for the next year while the wife is finishing school. My father in law was going to pay the rent while I was in the in patient program and now refuses to help while SSI kicks in and at witch point no assistance from him would be needed. My question really is HERE. Is he right? not for the financial part but on the "brain damage" part. I used for just under 3 years while never using more then 20 or so a day and constant breaks to keep up with the family image. Have I done the damage he's referring to or is he reading things from studies on long term using? Like 10 plus year time users? I don't feel like I'm some brain damaged meth head with rot teeth and uncontrollable worm dancing. I'm studying every day as well as reading and functioning incredibly well as a stay at home dad cooking, cleaning and playing educational games with daughter while playing and even running 2 miles a day. I don't think I'm suffering from long term use damage. Can anyone chime in on this please?