@Methisevil... "Rock bottom" is a tricky term. For some people, it can mean something like you've described your partner went through. But for others, "rock bottom" can be something way worse; it can even be death. That's why I don't necessarily agree with people who say someone has to hit "rock bottom" before they get help. For some, rock bottom is too late. Period.
Whether or not you should stay in this relationship is something only you can decide. I would just remind you of what Al-Anon and Nar-Anon teach about a loved one's addiction: You didn't cause it, you can't control it, and you can't cure it. Only your partner can make the decisions he needs to make to change. If he doesn't want to do that, then your hands are kind of tied.
You have to evaluate your feelings...because YOUR life matters, too. If you're unhappy, then maybe it's time to detach, at least for a while. Your happiness and well-being should never be dependent on the behavior of someone else. Always remember that.
I'm sending you lots of love and light. And hugs full of hope, too. If you get a chance, pick up a copy of the book called
Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change. It's the best book I've ever read for partners/parents of people struggling with addiction. I think it would really help you.
Big hugs to you.
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