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Why do some get sober?

Discussion in 'General Substance Abuse Discussion' started by Cametobelieve0202, Feb 27, 2018.

  1. Cametobelieve0202

    Cametobelieve0202 Community Champion

    Hello, why do you think some addicts/alcoholics manage to get sober, while others can’t seem to make it to the other side. I feel like the stars literally have to align in order for someone to get sober. In my case I had to hit my rock bottom while remaining open and willing and get treatment when I was infact ready for treatment. Like I had gone through treatment 3 other times before I got sober but...I wasn’t ready to quit, I hadn’t lost enough to my addiction to want to give it up. I barely got sober by the skin of my teeth, like had I made one wrong decision in that first year I would have gone right back. I hope this question makes sense, I’m curious what other people think? What has to happen or what change has to occur for someone to get sober?
  2. Dominica

    Dominica Author, Writer, Recovery Advocate Community Listener

    i think when negative consequences outweigh the positive feelings one gets.... that's when more serious changes will be made. when the pain gets great enough....that's when change is more likely to occur.

    but there are a host of other factors. type of drug. coping skills. environment. emotional maturity. and so much more.
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  3. True concern

    True concern Community Champion

    Very thought provoking post.I think there are so many factors at play that it varies far and wide.I cannot answer for anyone but myself. My struggle has been so hard for me because I was raised on Ritalin my entire life well from the age of 6 so when my party day's arrived my mind and body felt like I always have since the introduction of Ritalin to my life,for me it was the norm meth-ritalin one in the same so for me it has been one helluva fight as my mind matured on an amphetamine and I continue to fight because I never had a say in the Ritalin and I will never accept it as the norm.I personally hate all substances to the point I don't even eat salt or drink anything with sugar in it I am simply anti additives or unnecessary substances so honestly I fight them all and will continue my fight until it's done. STAY STRONG AND GOD BLESS
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  4. Joshstillclean

    Joshstillclean Community Champion

    An old post but I'm going to share my thoughts on the question.
    I give glory to,God for everyday I stay clean and sober. The truth is I cannot do it. I could rationalize all day and come up with a thousand different reasons why and none of them would really satisfy me.
    I'm sober because I trust God can work miracles in my life.
    I think it is always and mean 100% of the time, a setup for failure for an addict to say I can do this. We have proven over and over again, most to the point of being faced with life or death, we can't.
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  5. brianbreaz

    brianbreaz Member

    I guess it comes down to how bad the person really wants it. Also a big factor is some people have the right support group and some don’t. Being around the right people plays a huge factor in your success to getting sober.
  6. Onceaddicted77

    Onceaddicted77 Moderator Community Listener

    I want to resurrect this and add to it.

    I believe so to @Dominica Change comes from within. I think drugs finally get you too a point where your tired of your only reward anymore is this dang drug. Food was just something I'd shove in so my stomach so it would stop hurting. We think at first drugs make our lives easier and better but then we realize it turned on us. (Homeostatic process will not be denied) lol. no matter how hard we try. Life becomes 20x harder the drugs become 20x more expensive then after years of abuse we desensitize and internalize our receptors to the point we have barley anything left. So we get fed up and ready for a different life this one isn't working anymore. Time to live or die. What drives a marathon runner to keep going or a body builder to keep working out when it hurts. Willpower
    Last edited: Jun 27, 2019
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  7. True concern

    True concern Community Champion

    I love this post,"what drives a marathon runner" lol irony as I had 10 month's and blew out my knee running 4 miles every morning and I kept going through the pain until surgery and here I am however I am ready to run again and I need my body and health to do it so ya I like this post:)
  8. Dominica

    Dominica Author, Writer, Recovery Advocate Community Listener

    @Onceaddicted77 good insight. i find for me as i age, i reach less for things out there to try to find peace or joy. sometimes i'll find myself striving for that..... but catch it sooner or later. change does come from within. a good reminder. i've been dealing with a lot of anxiety lately... no idea why... i'm thinking maybe get into nature this weekend... a good nature fix!

    @True concern bless it. i hear you on the running. i miss it too. i get on the bike a lot...and i want to get back into the old tae bo on youtube... :) billy blanks rocked back in the day haha
  9. Onceaddicted77

    Onceaddicted77 Moderator Community Listener

    There is nothing like sitting by the water, lake or ocean and just letting go of all our problems for a bit.
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  10. Onceaddicted77

    Onceaddicted77 Moderator Community Listener

    Awesome you like to run! I've been running everyday since I got clean and Man there is nothing better then pushing ourselves to go further feels so good. Not to mention the adrenaline rush after, We are addicts after all hehe
  11. True concern

    True concern Community Champion

    Ya man I miss that runners high I would get between 40-45 mins in,no artificial substance could even come close
  12. Dominica

    Dominica Author, Writer, Recovery Advocate Community Listener

    @Onceaddicted77 that's great you've been running!! i do miss that adrenaline boost... i also miss running 5k's. I did a couple marine mud runs too.... wicked hard, but a good experience!! now i bike ride and walk...and it's alright, but i miss competing..
  13. Onceaddicted77

    Onceaddicted77 Moderator Community Listener

    That is cool @Dominica that sounds fun and challenging. I've never competed in a 5k but it does sound awesome. I'm getting more and more strength now I'm on day 50. It would be cool to try one. :D
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  14. True concern

    True concern Community Champion

  15. Joshstillclean

    Joshstillclean Community Champion

    You like them--wow. When I was prepping for boot camp at paris island they would make you run in the sand on a hill until you fell down. Falling down was mandatory come to find out. But the punishment for falling from exhaustion was starting over. Hated it. Glad they didn't take me--I meant that too.
    But 5k's are fun.
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  16. True concern

    True concern Community Champion

    Wow under 2 hours sleep....here I go again with the sleepless life
  17. deanokat

    deanokat DrugAbuse.com Community Organizer Community Listener

    I walked a 5K once. Just sayin'. :rolleyes:
  18. Joshstillclean

    Joshstillclean Community Champion

    my son just asked me what i was laughing at...
  19. deanokat

    deanokat DrugAbuse.com Community Organizer Community Listener

    Tell him the crazy/lazy old guy on the internet. :p
  20. True concern

    True concern Community Champion

    This weekend I plan on getting back on the treadmill, if nothing else to take my mind off the pain/numbness in my right hand and arm however probably not going anywhere near 5k lol,it's been awhile so I think I will strive for 1 mile and slowly increase and also I've started doing curls,I bought a bar and weights just for that as I don't have enough room for a bench but something is better than nothing
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