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Wife and I think cocaine

Discussion in 'Helping an Addicted Loved One' started by Chicagopilot, Oct 16, 2019.

  1. Chicagopilot

    Chicagopilot Member

    i posted this in a different section but just found this one and I think it is better suited for this so I am going to repost here.

    My wife and I have been married for 5 years. She is a recovering addict that has been clean for about 6 years. I bought her a restaurant that she has always wanted 3 months ago, she spent two months rehabbing it and open the last month. About two months ago I noticed a change in her. She was staying at the bar late, hanging out with a new crowd and becoming very distant. I was thinking affair and started searching for evidence. I found a text from a friend that was asking her where she got her coke. I confronted her but she said she slipped once and used only once. As she was becoming more and more distant I started feeling insecure and looking for reassurance from her which drove her further and further away. And all the while she was staying out till sometimes 7 in the morning and when I would ask her she would tell me that I am crazy and jealous. And it was a repeating cycle. Then last week when I was coming home from a business trip she called me devastated and told me that her hair had fallen out over night. Sure enough I would say that she was 80 percent bald. I became more and more concerned and she withdrew more and more. Friday she told me that she was leaving me and either I leave the house or she does. I chose to leave and she has only sent a few text asking me to let her know before I come home to get my things so she can leave. Two questions

    1. Does this sound like a cocaine addiction?

    2. Do you think she will come back to me? And if so what should I expect?
  2. DoxyMom

    DoxyMom Community Champion

    @Chicagopilot welcome. I'm so sorry for everything you are going through right now. I really don't know what kind of drug makes your hair fall out but stress can. What was her drug of choice when she was using? This may not matter because people can and do change their addiction. You may want to attend some ALANON meetings. Those folks would be the best help for you right now. Hopefully someone else will post here who may of heard of this. We are here for you.