I love sex and am not afraid to admit it. I think that if your addiction stems from self esteem issues, you need to work on your sense of self first and not on denying yourself physical gratification. If you are in a monogamous relationship and your sexual needs don't interfere with your health, work or partner, then it's not really an addiction.
Also just a reminder.. be always sure to use protections if you have sex.. It's sounds like a stupid thing that everyone knows but apprently, seeing how many abortions happen every day, it isn't. But of course it isn't only for the matter of having a child but also for the safety of yourself (HIV,AIDS,...). By the way I'm glad you feel better explaining your problems with us, that's a cool thing to hear
You are so right! I have some rather unorthodox preferences. And a very healthy sex drive. Before ingot married you can imagine the names people called me.
You'd think my man would feel lucky but I often hear, "God! Is sex ALL you think about?!" because I do talk about it a lot, make jokes often, come on to him more than he comes on to me... etc.
He probably brags to all his friends, when you aren't there, about him being so skilled that its all you can think about.
Sexual addiction is not a huge problem in my view, but your perception towards it and the way that you have begun picturing yourself as a sex addict is the problem. Look, there isn't an equal distribution of sexual hormones in every human being. Some have higher levels of hormones whereas others have lower. It seems you have a higher level of hormones, and trust me, its perfectly natural. But what matters most is how you are satisfying your high sexual desires? You have to find healthy ways of satisfying them. Don't watch porn too much because it makes you psychologically unhealthy and you'll start to have exceedingly higher expectations from your partner, which he may not be able to fulfill, unless he's a highly sexual person like you are. So, you need to talk this over with your partner and make sure you lot spend a considerable time in sexually playing with each other and doing the job. On a personal note, I think you and your partner should spend more time on foreplay, so that when the SEX time comes, you lot will be enjoying more.
My boyfriend is almost a decade my senior and his drive has lowered significantly. He has admitted he could go months and be fine. He has some health issues as well that are keeping us from being able to do anything right now. Could be another month or two. I really wish we were more compatible in that area. He really makes me feel sometimes like something is wrong with me for being like this. I guess that's probably what made me realize initially that something might be wrong with me or that it might be an addiction.
You're fine don't worry Also let us know in the future how will go with your boyfriend and your so called "addiction".
Do you have ways of "calming down" while he's out of commission? Cheating is such a horrible act. And it could ruin both of your lives, even if its just for 10 minutes.
I have "devices" to help me out Actually we had an amazing day together yesterday and I found the most amazing satisfaction cuddling up and going to sleep nestled in his arms. I was so satisfied with that I managed to not even THINK about sex. That's kinda major for me.
That's a good sign! If you can go one day without it and not even realize it then you can do it today and tomorrow, too.
Yes I can! I've done well in the past. It comes and goes sometimes. When I feel satisfied in other things, am generally happy with life it's not as severe of a problem.
I really can't imagine what you must go through on the bad days (I'm assuming you do?) But it sounds to me like you have a pretty good head on your shoulders. Good luck with everything!
I think there are really lesser sexual addictions in women compared to men even all women will confessed about it. Mainly maybe because it was the woman's nature and most women are busy on lots of stuffs. Specially mothers like taking care of their child, household and more if they also work.
I find that I do dwell more on it when I am idle. I don't have a whole lot of time to be idle except for when my insomnia is kicked in. I take care of two children, two dogs, a cat and her kittens, a bearded dragon and a boyfriend. Also, a mother who is bedridden. So, that helps to keep me busy and my mind occupied. It's the late hours when I have too much time to let my mind wander.
You sounds so busy with all those stuffs. That is why I have said that women were usually too busy on lots of things to think about.
Yes! Taboo is the word I was trying to think of before. I don't think it's more taboo to talk about it. I think you're probably expected to talk about it. That way people can judge you. Becaus, you know, that's what us gals are here for.
I think I would have to say that I think pornography is bad for society, it's an immoral act and it's not realistic, I can't imagine myself watching it because it's so much different than reality and what's truly out there. I know for sure that pornography will not satisfy and it may be temporary but it ruins families and does not help a relationship. A man is made for one woman, a woman is made for one man. They can both enjoy sexual relationship if they are married and committed, other than that I would have to say it is considered as immorality.