Totally true. Pornography for me doesn't satisfy at all only increases desire and gives me unrealistic expectations. I imagine it does the exact same thing for men.
I wouldn't be so sure about men, considering how much porn they seem to need to make it through the day. Porn isn't immoral. As a matter of fact, in some situations it can actually prevent someone from doing something immoral. I don't like porn because of how bad the acting is. Otherwise, I'm sure I would enjoy it as much as anyone else.
It does keep me from going out and making a huge mistake sometimes when it's used for those time my significant other isn't up to things and I'm totally on edge, but it just doesn't satisfy at all. If anything, I feel emptier and more desperate afterwards.
I might be wrong but while men seems to be addicted to sex, if not in the practice, in their minds thinking of sex on a regular basis, I think women may feel the same arousal and be prone to suffer the same sex addiction, but they have tons of other things in mind, not necessarily thinking of sex all day long. In addition, women tend to connect sex with romanticism whether it is part of not of their regular foreplay or addictive need. Either way, women have the same right to express their sexuality much in the way men have always done it.
I agree with your opinion that women have the same right to express it. Unfortunately, society doesn't always seem to go with that necessarily. We get portrayed as sluts or whores far more easily than men. I also agree that we often connect sex with romanticism. I think we connect it with our attractiveness or desirability as well.
LOL! You'd think as much, but I suppose not all men feel that way and either feel threatened or intimidated by it or just don't have the drive to match.
Before I got into a relationship I was very open a out my feelings regarding sex. Sex was just sex, and any guy with a brain would realize that's all it was. Otherwise, I didnt hang out with him again. I didnt make a secret of it or lie and make up excuses. I liked who I was and I loved my life. While some people called me a whore, other people knew the score... I behaved like a man, with the same outlook on sex, so a lot of people accepted me the way I was. I know women aren't allowed to be promiscuous like men. With men it's encouraged and applauded. But,as open as I was, I didnt get as much s*** for it.
I didn't get too terrible much flak for it from my close friends but I know in my little tiny rural town word spreads faster than melting butter and I had a fair amount of judgement on me. I am in a committed relationship now but I still hear rumours and it drives me crazy. I think I get the most crap about it from my significant other though, but that's because he doesn't have the same attitudes about sex as I do and doesn't sympathize with my emotions and addictions.
That's a misconception, if anything, porn is what causes someone to do something immoral because of the immorality that is in porn. Porn is acting and it's unrealistic, they create rape scenes that no one would have to find out about it or know about it without watching that. Most people who molest children watch porn, most people who abuse others sexually watch porn. Most people who have a clear mind and a true understanding of true sexuality and true love, don't watch porn.
Well I will absolutely say I know many who watch porn (myself included!) who would NEVER rape someone or molest a child! That's a grossly exaggerated misconception itself! There are many categories of porn and not all porn contains rape scenes or things of that nature! There are soft-core films depicting a more romanticized couple scene, there are fetishes that are certainly not abusive or hurtful although taboo or strange. I think it would be severely wrong to stereotype that in that way.
Actually one girl friend of mine was kind of addicted to masturbation and porn, if that counts. But it didn't affect her daily life so much and she didn't really care about it. Of course, it's not a very healthy thing, but as long as she had no problems with it (or at least it seemed so) I guess it was okay.
If its more of a fun little habit than it is an "I can't live without it" situation I don't think anyone would have the right to have a problem. Did you ever watch Sex and the City? If you did, do you remember what happened when they got the rabbit? No harm, no foul
I'm still reeling over the porn watcher over generalization a few posts above. Did you guys see that??
I saw anything. I couldn't add anything constructive. Anything I did say was going to sound like an attack. But, to each their own, I guess.
Good point. I suppose it was just shocking to me as most of the people I have encountered on this forum have been very understanding and supportive even while being honest. I know I'm over sensitive to it as it's something I do, but yowtch! Thanks for your input and being so laid back about it. Kinda cooled me off! LOL
I don't think you're over sensitive at all. When its an attack on something that you do, it feels like a personal attack. I'm not even going to lie... I have the DVD "the erotic adventures of Bonnie & Clyde", and its a really great movie! I don't think it makes us bad people or immoral. I think it makes me more open minded with a great sense of humor. If you get to see the Bonnie and Clyde movie you'll understand the "great sense of humor" I'm referring to. You shouldn't let it bother you, though. I thought you handled it very well. A lot better than I would have.
Lol, they put so much thought into the storyline, too. Bonnie and Clyde, Jesse James, and more and more gangsters are running from the cops and they all end up at the same house at the same time. The brother and sister are so happy because now they have someone other than each other to... Play go fish with. See what I mean? A LOT of thought.
She's off her rocker is a woman? I figured you were a guy. Your not off your rocker if your a woman with sexual problems. Lol, right? Sexual perversion issues. It is a derangement of the mind. There is no pervert who wasn't thoroughly abused BY a pervert. If you're a woman with sexual problems why would you wonder how many women struggle with this? Women talk to each other about everything. One of your addictions is sexual, but you don't state it. You know why women don't really struggle with it because they don't have to. Sex is something that can happen generally whenever a woman decides. SOME men struggle with it because they quite often have trouble getting it. Sitting around watching porn or looking at videos doesn't count.