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Women with Sexual Addictions?

Discussion in 'Other Substances' started by SarahWorksAtHome, May 26, 2015.

  1. mickella18

    mickella18 Active Contributor

    It is so rare to think that a woman can actually challenge a man for sex but it is possible. People think that it is unlikely and are quick to judge. As a woman we have urges too and desires. Not too say we are pigs but I believe we can be strongly addicted to sex just as much as men.
  2. SarahWorksAtHome

    SarahWorksAtHome Community Champion

    I'm bewildered by your reply.
    1. What gave you the impression that I am male? The title of the thread is WOMEN with sexual addictions so why would a male post that? My screenname has NOTHING at all to do with my addictions, anyways.
    2. There is a difference between addiction and perversion.
    3. Derangement is a very strong statement.
    4. The fact you posted is untrue.
    5. Not all women talk to each other about everything. Again, with stating opinions like facts!
    6. How did I not state it?
    7. Sex doesn't just happen whenever a woman wants LOL

    Serious overgeneralization happening all over the place and I am so confused as to the amount of contradictions you've stated.
  3. Tsky45

    Tsky45 Community Champion

    I think a lot of these addictions come from pornography. I know that a pornography addiction stems from a need to be stimulated at higher and higher levels. If you are not satisfied sexually you'll keep searching for more and more even when you have enough. I think it has to do with a imbalance in the brain. I may not be completely accurate about this in all cases, but I'm sure all sexual addictions are related in some way.
  4. SarahWorksAtHome

    SarahWorksAtHome Community Champion

    I can see that point. I think it could be one cause, for sure. Pornography can distort the way you view sex, view others, your expectations, etc.
    Satisfaction is a fickle thing.
  5. serenity

    serenity Community Champion

    For me an addiction has got to be something that disrupts your normal activities, so that's how I draw the line between a healthy libido and a sex addiction. A sex addict always tries to have sex several times a day everyday, and that is basing on this girl that I used to know. She does not work or study since she just graduated, so that's all she does and is into phone sex as well and orgies. So if your sex life doesn't disrupt your routine, then I say that it's just normal.
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  6. SarahWorksAtHome

    SarahWorksAtHome Community Champion

    I think it has less to do with the frequency or intensity and more to do with the lack of self control over the temptations or cravings.
    Isn't that the basis of all addictions?
  7. L_B

    L_B Community Champion

    I agree with @serenity on this one. If it doesn't disrupt your life then you just have a high sex drive and it's normal. A lot of people do. I have known sex addicts in the past and it is crazy what they will do for the satisfaction. I had a higher sex drive when I was younger but now that I am older it is not the same. I enjoy sex but it is not something that I have every day or multiple times a day. @SarahWorksAtHome makes a good point to! This is a great post. Lots of reading and lots of varied opinions on the topic.
  8. SarahWorksAtHome

    SarahWorksAtHome Community Champion

    Thanks for your input!
    It's awfully curious as my actual drive for intercourse has lessened lately but my thoughts towards sex, my desires and cravings have increased. I have become more reliant on pornography and masturbation as a result which is NOT healthy at all considering I am in a committed relationship.
    I'm about to start counseling for some other issues and may bring it up to the doctor to get some professional insight on it.
  9. Nomore141

    Nomore141 Member

    Have you ever tried taking mental snapshots of your physical and emotional states when the craving starts and try and determine how it actually is triggered? I think it could help if you kept a mental diary (or a written one) of your 'episodes' and look for patterns and factors that may linked to the craving. Exploring in greater death the aftermath of the climax might also shed some light on it. Personally though I wouldn't consider it a problem unless you can't function normally because of it.
  10. L_B

    L_B Community Champion

    I think it would be a good idea to bring it up to your counselor and see what they may suggest. You mentioned that you are in a relationship. What is your partner's thoughts of this? Are your sex drives capable of are you both being left feeling unsatisfied?
  11. SarahWorksAtHome

    SarahWorksAtHome Community Champion

    No, not ever exactly done that. I'm usually pretty distracted or consumed with it when it hits so I don't think about anything else.

    He's quite satisfied. He's older than me, works hard and is very tired most of the time. I'm sometimes satisfied.
  12. rapido

    rapido Member

    There's a fine line between a health sexual drive and addiction ,however when you hurt yourself in the pursuir of pleasure, it points to an unhealthy drive for sex or addiction. Not many people talk or acknowledge sexual addiction due to the stigma associated with it-especially if you are female. The good thing is that you have started on the right track by admitting that you think you have a problem. Apart from your sexual addiction, you seem to have other underlying issues including self-esteem problems hence your perception about not be worthy unless your needs are met. I would suggest you consult a good psychotherapist to walk you through this
  13. ReadmeByAmy

    ReadmeByAmy Community Champion

    They said that a sex is satisfying and fulfilling if you are giving it to your partner in life whom you are sharing your life and of course your love.

    This is the only first time I heard a woman sharing her story about sex addiction. And I admire your courage and being open minded when it comes to this matter. Well I do hope that in due time you will be able to stay away from this kind of addiction. All the best of luck for you:)
  14. SarahWorksAtHome

    SarahWorksAtHome Community Champion

    It's becoming easier lately. I don't know if it's helped that I've had a change in medication and routine including diet and sleep patterns or by coincidence or due to consciousness of my thought patterns or what.... but it's been better.

    Overall, lately, everything has been better. I have spent a good deal of time in solitude and had a lot of time to reflect on things.
  15. Damien Lee

    Damien Lee Community Champion

    Women are in fact more sexual than man. I've come across quite a number of women who have very high sex drives but they try to hide it to keep in line with society's expectations. It's a myth that women don't enjoy pornography or don't like to engage in sex regularly. Society's expectations together with the mass media have done enormous damage to women's sexual well-being.
  16. Sparkster

    Sparkster Community Champion

    I completely agree with this. Most of the people I have known who had strong sexual compulsions or addictions have been women and only two of them were men. It seems to be more socially acceptable for men to have such urges but not so much for women. Some women don't care and may openly display such tendencies whereas the majority of them feel ashamed of it. Of course, women have been sexualized a lot more than men have by society and I think this is why so many women are afraid to openly display their sexuality or sexual urges, regardless of whether they suffer with related compulsions/addictions or not. Of course, in extreme cases, satyrs and nymphomaniacs don't have such compulsions or addictions due to the love of sex but rather, use it as a means of attaining attention and to make them feel temporarily loved and wanted.
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  17. Tsky45

    Tsky45 Community Champion

    I know that sexual addictions are really from a lack of satisfaction. When someone is desensitized by unrealistic expectations it's hard to have one partner. Most of the time desensitization is the cause of people cheating. I really think that a sex addiction doesn't derive from regular sex.